The stage of twin flame separation is not like a typical relationship breakup. Indeed, when we separate from our twin flame, it is as if our whole life had been shattered. The deep and intense love we feel for our twin souls makes any form of separation agonizing and almost unbearable.
Twin flame relationships are defined by respect, equality, negotiation, and healthy boundaries. But it is a natural process for twin flames to go through cycles of separation. This is mainly for growth purposes. Indeed, there is a tendency for twin flames, who are not yet fully balanced, to focus on the other person when they should be focusing on their own growth and allowing the other person to focus. on its own growth. The best way to correct this tendency is separation. Your higher self and your guides are still working with each of you.
In the separation stage, it is important to focus on yourself, because that is the goal. This is difficult because you feel such great love for your twin flame and fear that they won’t come back. In fact, by focusing on your twin flame at the expense of your own growth, you complicate the process. We advise you to spend this time in joy, as you are both working diligently at your meeting. You have to accept this process of separation from the couple and have faith that when the divine timing is there and you have both healed enough, the reunion will be inevitable.
During these times of separation, you need to focus on the soul connection that is always there with your twin flame. It is important for twin souls to enjoy this form of soul-level communication and strive to always improve it. It is through this loving soul connection that you are both continually reassured.
Many don’t realize it, but there are many false beliefs inherent in the twin souls, which make it extremely difficult to reunite in physical reality. This is why you must continually work on yourself, by examining your motivations and behaviors, in order to find those which hinder your reunion. Another purpose of separation is to trigger these patterns and fears. If you fear separation from your twin flame, ask yourself what the underlying fear is and work to release it in your soul.
When two twin souls come together without being truly healed, it is difficult to increase the couple relationship with higher frequencies. The relationship gets bogged down in old patterns and that can be extremely painful for the twin flames involved. This is the reason why many of you chose this path of separation before your incarnation. Without the healing, you end up treating your twin flame like you would a karmic relationship, with all those negative qualities.
5 Causes of Twin Flame Separation
One of the most painful stages is the couple relationship between two flames, that of « Flee me I follow you, follow the law I flee you ». After the first stages of the ecstatic union and the fairy tale, things start to get complicated. The egos begin to clash. The hurts, insecurities and traumas are there.
As a result, it’s inevitable that almost every twin flame relationship will struggle with drama and dysfunction first. Naturally, this comes as a devastating shock. What happened to the perfect relationship paradise where everything was all fire, all flame? At this point, many twin flame couples find themselves confused and disoriented. Was it an illusion?
The answer is no. The intensity you felt was not a figment of your imagination. The sense of familiarity and deja vu you felt was not a mystical apparition. It was real. Do not doubt it. It is simply buried under the layers of your wounded egos.
You could say that the sole purpose of twin flame relationships is to help us mature our souls and become the best versions of ourselves. In fact, despite the difficulties, twin flame relationships are so powerful because they are catalysts for growth. Our twin flames help expose our dark, denied and fractured parts of ourselves that we have been hiding. Our twin flames provoke our inner growth by unwittingly (or intentionally) annoying us. The anger we feel is really only a reflection of the anger we feel towards ourselves.
Sometimes one or both partners in a relationship become so angry and unable to coexist that they break up. What is the cause of separation of twin flames? Here they are :
1. Psychological and spiritual immaturity
Life is energy and is a process of growth. Not only does our physical body grow, but our inner self also grows. Immaturity is one of the main causes of separation of twin flames. When we are immature, we have low emotional intelligence, which means we have trouble identifying and managing our emotions and those of others. Spiritual immaturity thrives in proportion to stubbornness and the magnitude of the ego. In other words, the bigger the ego, the less harmony there is. The ego wants to believe itself to be charming, magnificent, omniscient and perfect. But when it is challenged in one way or another, there is a price to pay.
We are almost all governed by the ego-self. But not all egos are the same. There are strong egos and weak egos. The stronger an ego, the more likely it is to run away from a person or situation that makes it powerless. Relationships with twin flames are an example of this. In fact, the bond between two twin flames is essentially made to dissolve the ego.
2. Lack of self-esteem and respect
The main requirement necessary for a successful twin flame relationship seems to be self-love. Without learning to love yourself first, there can be no true love for another. Instead, love is tainted by need, co-dependency, and “conditions.” We can never give unconditional love to our partners without first showing fierce unconditional love to ourselves. As a result, some twin flame relationships unfortunately crumble under the weight of insecurity and a lack of self-esteem that breaks the bond.
3. Life lessons must be learned
Life should prepare you before entering into a twin flame relationship. Sometimes that means you need to make other connections, make new friendships, or expand your life experience (travel, volunteer, get a new job) before you’re ready. It’s a matter of trial and error. Some circumstances will give you sweet insight, and others will overwhelm you. In any case, do not close yourself to the world. The more you test your limits, the more you learn.
4. Healing must take place
Sometimes a twin flame appears at a time in life when we are in a lot of pain. Our suffering can come from tragedy, death, some form of abuse, or even another broken bond or relationship. We may not yet be emotionally able to open up. Therefore, a healing process may be required.
5. Now is not the time
Life can be mysterious. Sometimes twin flame separation happens because the time is not right. Sometimes other journeys have to be made and other people have to be met, another bond has to be made. Sometimes we don’t even know why. The best thing to do in this situation is to surrender. It can be extremely difficult, but know that the experience will help you grow stronger and wiser. Who knows what the future holds?
Losing your significant other is one of the hardest things to go through. Whether through death, circumstance, or the inability to coexist together, twin flame separation is a nightmare. The absence you feel is a source of deep sadness. You go through life feeling empty, numb, lost. There is nothing in life that can compare to the deep and intense grief of losing your twin flame who is your significant other.
How to recover from a separation with your twin flame?
Grieving is an important part of the healing process of our souls. Our intention is not to wave a magic wand and make your pain disappear. Our intention is to help broaden your perspective and facilitate your recovery.
You are a strong, worthy and spiritual being. You deserve to pick up the pieces, heal, and move on with your life.
Even though you felt like your twin flame was your universe, you are able to find wholeness on your own.
Recovering from a separation with a twin flame can take months or even years. For this reason, always be gentle and patient with yourself.
1. Understand why the separation happened
Often, in order to find peace of mind, we need to understand why something in our life happened. If your split was deliberate, you might want to explore the underlying reasons and causes. To understand why you can learn important lessons about yourself that will help you mature as a person.
2. Realize that separating twin flames makes you stronger.
Losing your twin soul causes immense sadness and distress. But in the long run, it can transform you into the person you were meant to be. Like a phoenix rising from its ashes, the separation of the twin flames burns you violently. But after a while, if you allow it, this process can give birth to strength and courage.
3. Give yourself permission to cry
Intense emotions are scary. Because of this, most of us tend to hide, hold back, or fail to honor them. If you are feeling extremely uncomfortable emotions such as depression, anger, and grief, slow down. Make room in your life to cry. It’s not about self-pity, but about actively experiencing your emotions.
One of the best ways to actively experience your emotions is to express yourself, through a journal, painting, an instrument, dancing, running, hiking. Find what makes you feel good and go for it. Don’t stay static. To move. It is a powerful way to heal.
4. You are not your pain
When we are in a lot of pain, it is very easy for us to lock ourselves into victim roles. Melancholy is comfortable when it shields us from vulnerability. But remember this: pain is a passing sensation. It can be a very lingering emotion, but you are not your pain. You are so much more than your pain.
Opening up to pain and allowing it to teach you lessons shows you that pain is temporary. The pain reveals to you the parts within you that have not yet healed. The pain takes away the pretenses and illusions and reveals to you the truth of what is there: your wounds, your insecurities, your beliefs, your attachments.
Pain shows you that you have loved deeply and fully. It reveals your own beauty, your tender heart. Finally, when pain is fully accepted in the moment, it reveals a deeper truth.
5. Our twin flame is not responsible for our happiness.
Twin flames facilitate our growth in a powerful way, but they are not necessary for us to be happy. Fulfillment can be achieved without the presence of our twin flames.
Be open to reality because life is a mystery. You don’t know what the future holds for you. You never know who may appear or reappear in your life.
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